Have you ever struggled to forgive someone—even when you wanted to forgive? I know I have.
I have come to realize that part of my struggle came from not understanding true forgiveness. Sometimes, we have a hard time forgiving because we are trying to do things that are not part of the forgiveness that God models for us.
For example, we tend to think that forgiveness is between us and the person who hurt us.
But the truth is this:
Forgiveness is between us and God.
We are wrestling with the One who allowed this hurt to happen. Will we trust Him to redeem all that we give to Him, to turn ashes to beauty, and to keep His promises to us?
Another misunderstanding is that forgiving someone will make us vulnerable.
But here is the truth:
Forgiveness rescues us from the inadequacy of our own resources and brings us under the covenant care of God.
Bill Eliff put it this way:
God only allows two people at a time in the boxing ring. If you want to get into the ring and try to fight your own battles, God will let you. But He’ll get out. If you want God to fight your battles for you, then you must get out of the ring … and stay out.
Today on StartMarriageRight.com, I share
“7 Things that Forgiveness is NOT.”
Click HERE to read the full article.
Felice Mathieu · May 30, 2020 at 7:00 pm
Good, straight to the point article. Truly enjoyed. Will be adding this article to my blog on 20 common marriage problems.
I have a section on unforgiveness. Maybe you can read my article and link to it too if you like it.
Tami · May 31, 2020 at 2:07 am
In reply to Felice Mathieu.
Thank you, Felice. I appreciate your encouragement, as well as the link within your article “20 Most Common Marriage Problems with 20 Solutions for Married Couples.”
Blessings to you and your ministry!
Kirsten · August 17, 2016 at 5:52 pm
Great post. Forgiveness is a battle most of the time especially when we forget who we really need to turn to. Thank you for the beautiful reminder today.
Tami · August 17, 2016 at 11:44 pm
Thank you, Kirsten. I appreciate your encouragement, as well as your own ministry. Blessings to you!